Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Outsmarted..

It was around 11.30 pm last night..Banun slowly slipped Lady Yoda into our bedroom door and as she stood up, she casually said " I nak pergi Jerantut besok!"

What?? Did I hear wrong? The Baba who was watching the telly turned around and waited for the conversation to progress.

" You nak pergi mana?" I asked in a very enquiring tone.

" Besok I nak pergi Jerantut..ada pertandingan drama." Banun replied in a scared tone.

"No!! You're not going anywhere! I dah cakap..no more competitions kan? You punya markah exam not that good! I nak you buck up! Mana nombor talipon Cikgu you? I nak cakap you takboleh ikut!!"
Boy o boy the Baba was really angry..and he was already having the buffalo horns..hahaha

Banun went straight to her room while I had to continue listening to her father's grumblings and rantings.

Then I went to the girls' room and asked Banun to show me the permission letter that the school normally gives for parents to sign. Banun was already hiding under the blanket.

I took the letter and told Dato' that her drama team was going for the peringkat negri competition. He refused to even look at the letter.

And so for part of the night, my thoughts were really troubled. We can't let her drama team go to an important school competition without one of their actors. It would be kamikaze for the school.
And I would't want Banun to be forever blamed!
Nevermind..we'll see what happens the next morning.

At around 6 am, I asked the 'boss'.." macam mana ni bang? She just can't drop out like that.."

"Okaylah! Suruh dia pack..give her my bag ( his favourite hand-luggage leather bag! Thats the only one actually)."

" Banun?? Baba suruh you kemas your bag!"

"I dah kemas!" Banun yelped out.

She had squeezed everything into a knapsack.. and so we forced her to use the father's bag because she had to bring a spare blanket, bedsheet and a pillow-case along with her stuff. The team were going to stay in a school dorm. Her knapsack was bursting to the seams!

Now that the green light was fully on,she even borrowed her father's black coat and a long-sleeved checquered shirt.
" You main part apa?" I asked in a busybody manner.

"I main part Mr Riley!"
" Oh!" (whateverlah!)

And so Dato' sent her to school where their beautiful big blue school bus later on drove them to their designated school in Jerantut, a tiny town about 3 hours plus away.

Why did she wait to tell us she was on a school trip at the last minute? Because she knew we surely tak bagi. Exam PMR dah nak dekat. We wanted her to focus on her revision. On top of that, end of the month she'll be following her debating team to Kedah.

I guess we just cannot stop her from participating in the English debates and latest..English drama competitions..its her passion. No matter how hard we try to discourage her because the PMR is so near, she 'curi2' stay back after school hours for the practices.

Ahh..I remembered when I wanted to follow our school netball team for a match at another district? I told my parents too early and they vetoed immediately. I never got a chance to go anywhere with the school team for any kind of competitions. They were so over-protective. The 'tell later technique' would have been disastrous. I would have to pack and live in a cave to hide my shame then.

Nowadays, kids are smarter..they know how to play the psychology game..we parents can't afford to say no especially at the last minute..no matter how thunderous our voices are, the kids nowadays know how to handle over-protective parents..hehehe

55 comments:

Pi Bani said...

You mean the school didn't ask for the permission letter to be returned to them earlier?

Ah well, kalau dia dah minat tu payah sikit lah nak say no to her. But not to worrylah, I'm sure nearer to PMR, the school sendiri will not allow their PMR/SPM students to take part in other activities. Kadang2 kita larang dia buat itu ini pun, tak juga dia concentrate on studies... asyik teringat if only dia dapat join activity yang dia minat tu...

Chahya said...

Oo..Banun likes drama...
I like her already, baguss.
It's great that she wants to be involved in good activities...
that should be encouraged.
Teens - when they want something, they'll do it anyway.
Some teens are secretive to do benda yg tak sihat, count your blessing she's secretive to do something yg healthy actually.
To get into her head that she should prioritize may require a different approach.
But Datin also cikgu, you know psychology also lah...be her friend kan.

Tok Snake said...

it will be her good memories in future. furthermore it is good for her overall developement. don't deny her the oppurtunity, just teach her to balance things out.

Zendra said...

Banun had probably been agonizing about it for weeks. And could Dato's "anger" been a drama too, actually you both are proud of her. Hubby and I do that sometimes with our formfiver, whose into this and that at school. After an outburst and extracting a promise from her, we'd (h n I) just look at each other with a resigned smile... hehe

Cat-in-Sydney said...

Mamasita,
Did the school win? Then it'll be worth all the trouble. Or else...

Unfortunate for me as no school would accept a sexy four-legged furry purring cat as a student, no matter how literate or smart, or how talented an actress she is.

Oh well....go for it Banun. Who knows, maybe she'll become a great actress one day, just like my namesake.

Hugs, licks and kisses,
Angelina

Hanz said...

Oh Banun, good luck for you in the drama competition! She'll come around to study after she fullfill her interest eventually. No worries-lah Mamasita. She is a smart girl indeed!

Tommy Yew said...

Hi Mamasita,

Tell me about it! Yeah sneaky kids..hahaha.. u kena tricked, don't we all?

But any kid brought up with love, affection, honesty, trust & respect in a happy, healthy encouraging family environment will eventually turn out well. As parent, it’s only natural, we do have our fear & anxiety (over protectiveness), but at the same time we do not wish to inhibit our child growth & their learning curve. The least we could do is to allow them their freedom & ability to make their own choices.

Quote by Barbara Bush;

“Whatever the era, whatever the times, one thing will never change; fathers & mothers…..children must come first. Your success as a family, our success as a society, depends not on what happens in the White House, but what happens inside your house.”

Barbs, errrrr…what went wrong with G.W?????????????....heheh.

Salam,
Tommy.

Kama said...

(paraphrasing Chahya).. I like her already too!.. dramas, debates.. that's he way to go, girl!

Mamasita, takpalah. Like Pi says, nanti the school itself will put a stop to all these extra-curricular activities when exam is around the corner.

Nasihat for Banun - STUDY HARD, BUAT REVISION TAU! Nanti baba naik hangin.. susah..lol

Saya... said...

mamasita,

you should be proud of your daughter..getting involved in activities that are beneficial...ramai anak2 org sekarang tipu mak bapak extra-activity menyundal, memonteng..depan mata i hari2 tengok kat NZ kedai mamak...she is doing okay...to tell you the truth, results aren't everything...she still has her form 5, tu yg penting kalau nak masuk university...school kids yg tak pandai nak bercakap/komunikasi tapi A berderet2 tak berguna I tell you...kerja pun susah nak dapat...at least she is polishing her skills in the right way.

Saya... said...

Tommy,

GW Bush was the spawn of the devil...maybe Barbara fooled around with Lucifer.

Tok Snake said...

mam,
i ada respon to this entry of yours at my blog.

Kak Ezza@makcik Blogger said...

nak main drama ya Banun...hehehe pandai betui kamu create another drama kat rumah..selamba jer...

saya pun setuju dengan Pi Bani tu..but try to apply STUDY SMART rather than STUDY HARD...kena pandai menjadual kan waktu, nak oiii

Kak, saya call tak angkat. sms pun tak jawap semalam...kalau akak tak reply sms saya tu, saya dah ada rancangan nak tanya pasal akak kat blog Datuk tu...nasib baik akak jawap!

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Desert Rose said...

Yeahh Banun Menang.

Ha ha, I gues she had mastered her dad's punya perangai. Bising2 pastu ok.

Anyway, I think u have a star in d making la Datin, star student I mean. Kalau excel in study alone pun tak best gak kan, imagine Banun punya resume, meletoppp.

masterwordsmith said...

Hi Datin Mamasita

Your anak memang pandai! *claps*

I also like her *clapping more excitedly*.

My son is also like her LOL!!!!

Aiyo - kids these days are really something...

My son will be going for a competition peringkat negeri (can see him this Sat @ TV3 7.30pm) and he senyap-senyap joined the competition ...

I wish your anak the best of luck and would not be surprised if she wins some special award.

Salam to you and your family.

mamasita said...

Betul jugak nasihat you tu Pi.
I have to be very open-minded and sporting..buatnya dia quietly rebel lagi leceh.

I saw the letter was dated 29th June.And so she kept the letter mengeram sampai the night before nak bertolak..hehe

I tanya dia..kenapalah you join drama pulak? She said she hanya supporting actor..cikgu dah interview a few but couldn't find anybody suitable..so Cikgu mintak tolong dia lah..hahaha

mamasita said...

Chahya..Banun ni my number 7. I dah keletihan kadang2 nak pakai psychology approach..pakai bom molotov jer dah sekarang!! hahaha

Good tu good tapi she asyik nak join competition jer..we all warning kat dia suruh stop sementara sebab trial exams pun dah dekat..hish..ada jer dia punya secret activity..so Baba dia berleter lah oi..mengalah kita orang pompuan!haha

mamasita said...

Chahya..Banun ni my number 7. I dah keletihan kadang2 nak pakai psychology approach..pakai bom molotov jer dah sekarang!! hahaha

Good tu good tapi she asyik nak join competition jer..we all warning kat dia suruh stop sementara sebab trial exams pun dah dekat..hish..ada jer dia punya secret activity..so Baba dia berleter lah oi..mengalah kita orang pompuan!haha

hehe..glad she impresses you..so,you pun minat drama huh..waah.

mamasita said...

Tok Snake..
your advice is most appreciated..thank you so much..I will follow apa you cakap.

SOHO Mama said...

Mamasita..Banun ni aktif betul eh? I don't think I had a clue on what I was doing when I was 15 haa haa..! Err maybe berlari 100m kat padang & lompat2 tinggi lahh..masuk jugak peringkat daerah..and volleyball *lupa pulak*

Anyway, during my days, the "tell later" tactic would not have worked either. Kalau nak my father tukar jadi harimau komando, boleh lah :P
But alhamdulillah he never stopped me from competing in sports (well, that was the only thing I was good at haa haa).

Banun tu, survival skills dia nampak bagus tu :)

mamasita said...

Hai Zendra..you said it! Probably a week dia agonised over the matter..haha

My friend kata kalau anak dia nak mintak sign borang permission, her anak cuci kereta. Then the mum and dad tahu ada lah tu..hehe

Banun tak cuci kreta..she just buat derk jer..until she just had no choice but to tell..patutnya I suruh dia sidai baju and basuh pinggan! Melepas betul!hehe

For us,we are quite used to her self-appointed celebrity status..jadi we normally just tanya..menang?

Shes dah balik rumah petang tadi..her school-team MENANG! Alhamdullillah..National Level kat Penang nanti.

~Covert_Operations'78~ said...

Mr. Riley, Datin? What play is that? Sounds exciting! Clever, talented, brave Banun! You and Dato' should be proud of her! Anyone can sit for the PMR exams and get straight As. Not everyone can be an all-rounder like her. Do your best, Banun, and make us all proud.

Datin, my grades were pretty good in Form 3 so I wasn't forbidden from participating in school activities. Guess I thought I could pull it off in Form 5 as well. I would participate in events first and then tell parents where I had disappeared to later. The shouting matches between my parents and I that followed were legendary. I paid the price and did quite badly in my SPM. I only managed to get C3 for most of the subjects that I had previously obtained A1 in. I guess ultimately parents should be able to gage their children's academic potential, self-discipline, maturity and time management skills. I wasn't able to cope, but was too proud to say so.

As long as Banun bucks up by Form 4 and keeps her grades up, no reason why there should be any restrictions on her activities.

Go, Banun! All the best!

CO78

~Covert_Operations'78~ said...

HAAAAA!!!! MENANG!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS, BANUN!!!!

VersedAnggerik said...

alaaaa darling,

I pun selalu kena outsmart dgn Husna yg kecik tuh! Kadang-kadang tu, kena tipu idup-idup.

Jadi emak ni, memang ini lah dugaannya kot erk?

mamasita said...

Mamamia Cat-in-Sydney..again I just couldn't reply everybody's exciting comments on time..busy with housework and household errands.

Yes dearie..Alhamdullillah her school team won and will be representing Pahang for the National Level.

An actress?? That will make the father really hopping mad! hehe
Meeoooww!!!

mamasita said...

Hanz..thank you so very much for being so supportive and loving towards Banun..

Btw I hope Hambali dah sihat wal'afiat..

Thank you Hanz for soothing our worries and anxieties.Memang kita parents kuat worry unnecessarily..hehe

mamasita said...

Tommy..we parents actually inherit our parents protectiveness..when we were young, we always felt like rebelling and doing things behind their back! We were also so pesky!! hehe

My late mum always use to say.." wait till you all have children and you'll feel (rasa) what Mak rasa.."
Adoi..nampaknya its the same more or less old story where children siang2 want to make their own decisions without too much parental objections! wohooo! Padan muka I!

I didn't know Barbara Bush said that..hehe
I think George Bush Jr. didn't turn out to be that smart afterall..I mean as a President.
He may have made a better career as a..I don't know..but not as a President..so many mistakes.So many innocent lives lost because of his wrong moves.

mamasita said...

Hai Puteri..
the Baba can bising and really naik angin when our children main2 and tak revise seriously. Kadang2 I kesian tengok diaorang kena leter..

I always rasa kids shouldn't be too pressured. They must be allowed to follow their own paces. Of course they're okay with their studies..brilliant sangat tu taklah..and I always remind the 'boss' that.

Banun being the youngest of our 7 children has managed to get a lot of freedom to join competitions..once one of the kakaks said..you bagi Banun..we all dulu you tak bagi.

Banun tak takut kalah menang.For the older ones, I takut they'll get hurt emotionally kalau kalah..hehe

Hey thanks..glad you peminat drama jugak!I guess you can clique easily with Banun then..I am sure she likes you already too!

mamasita said...

Hoi Saya..yelah yelah..betul betul!!

Thank you for giving me a good ticking! I deserve it! Tapi bukan salah I actually..Dato' tu..garang macam boarding school punya headmaster..he always tuduh I bersubahat dengan anak2 by hiding any report card yang grades low sikit..hehehe

Jokes aside..you are so correct!!

mamasita said...

Tok Snake..I dah baca your entry semalam..will leave a comment asap.
Thank you Tok.

mamasita said...

Hai Zah..haritu my old phone 'pencen' and I had to get a new phone..banyak numbers terdelete..so sorry..normally I tak jawab kalau I tak sure siapa..haha

Banun dah kena warning yang ke..err..entah brapa puluh kali to make sure she revise kuat2 untuk PMR. Nak kata study smart and bukan study hard tu payah jugak..we want her to do both! haha

mamasita said...

Desert Rose??
You ni kalau bab bagi galakan memang nombor 1!!

I thank you for your doas and high hopes for Banun..and thank you for showering her with all the sweeet compliments!! Banun memang boleh geng dengan you! hehe

mamasita said...

Masterwordsmith??
GOOD LUCK to your son..pukul 7.30 on TV3 this Sat yer? Nanti I will try to park myself in front of the TV and cheer for your son!!Yey!!

Awwh..so glad you like Banun..she'll make a good pal for your son since they're quite alike with their 'smart' tricks up their sleeves..haha

Thanks Paula..

mamasita said...

Hai SOHO Mama..hahaha
your dad boleh jadi commando harimau?? Thats so funny!!

Banun with her survival skills? Hmmm..not too sure about that..kalau balik sekolah lambat, terbongkang tidur atas sofa..gobok kain baju punyalah berselerak..buku2 and fail2 dia ada kat corner sini and sana! hehehe

One thing about her..shes a good PA to both of us..boleh suruh apa saja..make drinks,make sandwiches,urut tapak kaki father dia, type my NCWO minutes..etc..hahaha

mamasita said...

Hai CO 78!!
Waah..thank you laah for the congratulatory shouts!! haha

You have turned out to be one of the best lawyers around..and one of the most respected environmentalists as well as a dedicated worker for RSPCA..

I will not worry so much for Banun now..I can consider you as the sifu and contoh..haha
If you can do it..well err..I still better hover over her activities like an eagle..hahaha

mamasita said...

VersedAnggerik..
I am not surprised kalau Husna klentong you idup2..mak dia lah sifu dia..hehehe
Ni macam Jackie Chan dengan kungfu master dia..last2 anak murid lagi terrer daripada tokguru dia! hohoho

Cat-in-Sydney said...

Banun...actress in the making...
BTW, Mamasita, my Mama may be in your neck of the woods soon. She's asked me to ask for your contacts. Could you please email her at catinsydney@gmail.com? purrr....

Tommy Yew said...

Hi Mamasita, pesky me again;

Wah what a coincident; my mummy oso said the same thing;

.." wait till you all have children and you'll feel (rasa) what Mak rasa.."

Wonder whether all mummies go to the same school….heheh. This one is from their same text book too;

“Seeking out advice from friends, family and experts is great, but don’t be afraid to go against convention wisdom & make changes to fit your family’s lifestyle. Reflect on how you were raised & borrow the things you liked in raising your kids. Work with your spouse as a team. Think of ways to lessen your HUBBY’s load, and he’ll appreciate you even more.” Daddy must also take on the ‘good guy’ hero's role while Mummy must also bite the bullet & play the wicked witch role. Ahem…Dato Sak, u owe me one for this gem…heheh.

Have a great weekend all.

Tommy.

mamasita said...

Cat-in-Sydney..
I will gladly do so..btw my email address is at hudaartdealer@yahoo.com
Thank you so much for the kind friendship! Purrrrr!!

mamasita said...

You pun have a great weekend ye Tommy?

I asked Dato' whether he paham what you said to him about the good guy's role? Dia kata dia tak paham lah Tommy!! hahaha

Thanks Tommy for your very very charming thoughts and advice!

Saya... said...

mamasita...la...did it sound like im ticking you off ker...ish, didnt mean to sound that way sis...just meant to say banun is a daughter one can be proud of...tak buat keje merapu...hehehe

mamasita said...

Saya..o no dearie..I must have used the wrong words..solly solly..I am so very happy you gave me a good reminder..Adik mesti tegur kakak at times because kakak pun kadang2 terlupa..haha

tireless mom said...

Gen Y. Macam tu lah. And the school is not of any help, sigh! Kena pandai manage, challenging tu.

State level Banun participate tak?

Lyana Mauseth said...

datin mama,

bdk2 skrg mmg pandai main politik dgn mak ayah tau...

nnt banun nak manager, blh koling2 i..sbbnya i pun dah penat menanggur ni :D

Ydiana said...

Hi Mamasita

Actually these kids also need some balance in school. Kalau asyik nak hadap buku pun, boring juga. Infact, I am sure you are proud parents with her achievements. Despite gettings all the A's in all subjects, students should also be active in co-curiculum activities to be a well-rounded performer. Just encourage her and and give full support, after that remind her to hit the books for the exam. :)

edelweiss said...

Mamasita,

budak-budak la nih cerdikkkkk tau...depa tau parents depa punya kelemahan...hahahhahhah

gud luck for ur PMR ya Banun. Eh lupa untuk debate kat kedah jugak.

have a gud day datin

mamasita said...

Hai TM.
Betul..memang General tak bergelar!

O yes..she'll be in her team for the State-level..katanya kat Penang.

Yang debate pulak state-level kat Kedah.

Thanks TM.

mamasita said...

Hoi L.M.
you janganlah humble sangat..you boleh dapat a very good job anytime!!

Yeah..pandai main politik oi..mintak2 Banun boleh jadi a very excellent politician oneday..hehe

mamasita said...

Ydiana,
thanks so much for your great advice..exactly!

Budak2 ni however bila hit the books tu lah yang slow sangat..kita parents puas kena menghambat diaorang.

mamasita said...

edelweiss..
thank you so much for the good-luck wishes to Banun.

Yeah..they all tahu we parents bising jer tapi taklah segarang yang disangka..hehe

You pun have a nice day yer..I am in KL at the moment..Seth nak masuk KYUEM besok.Last nite I went for the NCWO dinner kat SRGC.Today teman Seth beli barang2.Wed baru balik ke Kuantan.Thursday malam Hakim will be flying back from the UK so we'll be going back keKL..Sunday baru balik ke Kuantan..
Yup..a very busy week for me indeed..hehe

Ida Hariati Hashim said...

Salam Datin,

Menurut firasat saya, Banun is going to be somebody BIG nanti. She is intelligent, talented and sebagainya..Glamour la you nanti Datin..hehehe.

Anyway, I believe in supporting one's child in whatever she likes to venture in..so let her give her best shot, madam. She'll do proud..:)

Pak Zawi said...

Mamasita,
Who knows one day being a top dramatist can bring her a good life? Just let her be. Just tell her to balance up the study and the activities. She can be top in both.

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mamasita said...

Hai Ida..thank you for your beautiful firasat..tukang bagi firasat tu pun ada a beautiful heart!

mamasita said...

Hello Pak Zawi..betul cakap you..I agree totally with your advice..

Tapi budak2 ni kadang2 kena chase selalu..banyak kali they just don't balance their time..bila balik dari practices..melepek letih..tidur terbongkang dengan baju sekolah atas sofa..hehe
( and homework duduk dalam beg sampai the next morning!)